Well, I agree, but that's a value I hold and not a value they hold? And while if they're still doing this in five years I'm not going to have the patience, I don't want to give up on cool people just because we don't share that. It's not even that they care that I'm trans --- they know and don't care --- but they don't get gender-neutral pronouns, it's outside their experience, and it's not something they were taught or believe in strongly.