I'm sorry to use a phrase that annoyed you. I was trying to get at what the theoretical guy might think; I do not think women are fish or food. Unless they want to be.

Using cold as an insult for women is problematic in all kinds of ways; basically, for women to be good quality women, they have to be sexually prepared for whatever advances men might make on them. If they're not, they're ice queens, frigid, cold fish, etc. It sucks. I think it's also an important part of the cultural narrative, for my example.