Yeah.

In Texas people called me ma'am a lot. Sometimes after visibly checking my hand for presence of wedding ring, which made me want to go berserk with automatic weaponry. But it's not like I'd do something as against myself as not wear my wedding ring when the alternative is, dammit, miss...

And then there's the thing where the ways that I enjoy appearing, the things that are built into my mental self-image as 'this is how I look', are going to be read as female despite the fact that that is not how I think of them and not how, in an ideal world, I would like them to be read. Like, I have long hair because I have long hair, and there must be ways for it to be read as more masculine but fuck if I know what they are.

I hate pronouns so much. Especially since with my presentation nobody is going to use the male ones, I don't think I can get that, neutral feels like pushing it, and it's not as though the male ones are precisely correct so if I were to go to a lot of work to make people use them (and it would be a lot of work and I'd have to change my appearance at least some I'm sure) it still wouldn't be the right thing.

All of which is to say, YES, frustrating, I feel that, yes.