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State of the Rax
- Realized this morning while talking to Krinn that I am simultaneously very stressed and not depressed at all, which is unusual for me. It's kind of amazing, because I am not depressed, fuck yes. But in the past when I've been super stressed the depression was kind of a coping mechanism around not caring that much because, you know, nothing really matters. (Anyone can see.) And so why bother engaging with the stress? Right now, I care, dammit. I want to do well in my classes. I want to do well in my job. I want to support my friends and loved ones. And daaaaaang that's a lot of work. I will take it over the alternative, although I really want to reduce the stress, because I can feel it weighing on me (and I'm grinding my teeth in my sleep a lot, ugh --- this is something that has happened intermittently to me since I was small, and tends to go away when I get my stress levels back down to manageable, although apparently it has been pretty consistent lately; at one point I tried a mouthguard and it stopped the grinding but also caused me to wake up all the time, which was not worth it).
- Grad school: Classes are getting better, which is pretty great, and I am enjoying the majority of my readings a fair bit, even though occasionally I look at something like Descartes and think "While I understand that I should have read this in order to get a PhD in something humanitiesy, this is so fucking dumb." [0] I've also been spending time meeting faculty from other departments and traversing the academy in order to find people to work with on my research. I'm not quite sure where this process will end up yet but if nothing else the conversations are really exciting and fun. I actually found someone in academia who knew what a furry was! That was pretty awesome. There is also stupid departmental drama but it does not merit my or your attention to discuss further. [1] Overall I am feeling more excited and motivated, which was good, because I was at a really low point like a month ago.
- Work: Has been slow this week, which is nice because I had a paper due yesterday. This working 6-2 or 6:30-2:30 thing is a little crazy, but ultimately works out. In general work is pretty awesome. I need to figure out when I next go and visit them; sometimes the phone can be a little tough. On the plus side, I am actually helping customers do real work of value, which is a hard feeling to beat. And I have metrics! And I do well at them! Oh, if only gender studies had metrics.
- Pokemon: This is sort of my main leisure-time activity? I played in some tournaments, came away with one Championship Point (if you get enough, you get an invite to the World Championships), and most importantly had a lot of fun. I got a little down at one event where I made a stupid mistake and lost a chance at a very high place because of it, but what can you do? ... If you are me the answer is apparently "play a bunch of games of speed chess afterward to calm your nerves." One of the people I played with said "It's cool, dude, this is just for fun" and my response was "This is how I have fun." He gave me a look, which was fair, but I wasn't joking. I will be going to a Regionals tournament, which should be much bigger and allow me to meet lots of new people. It's sort of like meeting new people through chess, except everyone isn't either a middle-aged man or a nine-year-old prodigy. [2]
- Tucson: Making friends is slow but proceeds apace; feeling enmeshed in the community will take some more work, which I hope to put in over time. But oh my god the climate, the geography, the materiality of this place are so perfect for me. I love the mountains. I love the sky. I love the air, I love the bike lanes, I love the plant life, I even love the terrifying peccaries who show up in packs and hold my house under siege. (Seriously. Pigs the size of small wolves.) I wish I had more time to engage with it all. I need to prioritize engaging with it all. I, just, it's mid-October and the high today is 93. HOW DID I EVER LIVE ANYWHERE ELSE.
- House in Bloomington: Is pending a sale with a signed offer. I am not counting my chickens until they hit puberty, but this is promising. I will be losing a ton of money but I am just, barely, by a finger, in the range of acceptable losses.
- Friends and loved ones: A lot of people very dear to me are going through some really bad shit right now, and that is part of why I am so stressed. There's not so much I can do about it, but I do what I can; if there's something I can do for you that I don't realize, please drop me a line. I don't have a lot of temporal resources, but I have many other kinds. And I care. <3
- In conclusion: I'm a stressball (oh god am I a stressball, fur flying everywhere) but I am nonetheless happy. Reducing stress levels is probably important longterm, but I prefer this situation to a whole lot of recent alternatives.
[0] Terrifying thought: Do other people think this about the authors I like??
[1] It is based on real issues and has real effects on people I care about, and thus is worth mentioning, but the way to deal with that is not to rehash it all on LJ.
[2] This is sort of an unfair characterization --- in particular there were a couple of awesome women who were also very strong players in the Boston chess scene --- but it's how it feels at large events especially. And I'm being nice to Pokemon; while there are a lot more women in the game overall, the top levels are still mostly male, and a lot of the online community is awfully... representative of structural gender inequalities and biases. So far though tournaments and leagues have been super pleasant, and the only person I've seen do something obviously sexist was a twelve-year-old who shat a brick when I called him on it.
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Rachel Dillon
2565 E Prince Rd
Tucson AZ 85716
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I would be curious to hear more about your interaction with the twelve-year-old in footnote two, as handling such things gracefully and effectively is a skill I would like to level up.
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But I'm glad you love it.
The cool and bizarre thing was the purple cactus. You might not have those in tucson? they're the normal boring plate cactuses that got down near the freezing point. The darker the purple, the colder it was. It doesn't hurt the plant! It doesn't kill it or anything! It just turns it purple! WTF!
My sister doesn't have roving peccaries, but she's in a large subdivision with a wall. Maybe the wall is to keep out peccaries. Also she's renting a 3700 sq foot house with a bit of yard for approximately the same price as my current apartment, which is running cheap for a nice three-bed, and doesn't have a wet bar or a garage and I had to carve my office out of the living room with bookcases. But then I remember that I was there during a cold snap and it was still too hot... I may revise my opinion when I'm under snow.
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Phoenix and Tucson. Very different.
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(I'm from Michigan. Now I live in Massachusetts. I have no idea about the west.)
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Tucson has some actual culture - which is a lot more important than climate to me. You can get used to the weather in most places. The culture, on the other hand, might actively dislike you.
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Aromatherapy! I'm practically on an IV drip of peppermint tea this semester. It helps reduce stress levels and headaches, and has no caffeine (which I try to avoid, idk). Maybe that will work for you? Chamomile and lavender are other ideas.
Really hot baths! I took a hot bath once this semester when I was on the verge of losing my mind and nearly died from how relaxed I felt after. It's very good if you need a hard reset.
Your jaw is a huge place for holding tension; try to do some jaw relaxing techniques or learn how to massage the tension out of your jaw muscle, and it usually makes you destress really fast. You might also learn some facial massage techniques because they are pretty amazing (and useful to apply to other people). Google it!
15 minute power naps are seriously the shit. Whenever I can't take it anymore I just sleep. Fifteen minutes is fast enough that no one is going to miss you, and also not enough to putz with your sleep schedule, but enough for you to really feel a difference.
Um, I am 99% a healthy almost-completely-vegetarian person, but my only real indulgence is chocolate. I seriously bought a massive stockpile of superdark chocolate at the beginning of the semester (the cashier was like wtf) and I just gnaw on it. It's awesome.
Um, that's all I can think of right now. If I think of more I will leave another comment!
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OH RIGHT I OWN A HOT TUB I SHOULD GET THAT FIXED ^^;;;;;;;;;