Thinking more about this, and replying here because of the conversational thread rather than because I expect an answer from you necessarily, though I'm curious what you think: Is it reasonable to attempt to warn strangers, or is this something that works within a social group? I feel waaaaaaaaay unsafe just publically saying "here are some names, don't get in a room alone with these people" but I do feel more comfortable approaching people and saying "hey I noticed you've been hanging out with X, you might want to know about this thing that happened, I'd appreciate if you could stay quiet about it."
I do also worry, as all of my experiences are at least five years old --- what if people got better? Is it appropriate to endeavor to blacklist people on this basis? (I mean it's fair to just say YES RACHEL IT IS in all caps, but part of my brain is genuinely unsure.) I guess at the very least if they have gotten better they can work to make people trust them, but don't deserve to start with the benefit of the doubt? I don't know. I guess I go through phases where I am like "X raped me, I hope X falls in a well and drowns" but I'm not in one of those right now.
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Date: 2009-08-18 11:20 am (UTC)I do also worry, as all of my experiences are at least five years old --- what if people got better? Is it appropriate to endeavor to blacklist people on this basis? (I mean it's fair to just say YES RACHEL IT IS in all caps, but part of my brain is genuinely unsure.) I guess at the very least if they have gotten better they can work to make people trust them, but don't deserve to start with the benefit of the doubt? I don't know. I guess I go through phases where I am like "X raped me, I hope X falls in a well and drowns" but I'm not in one of those right now.