I appreciate this, thank you. I considered a restraining order, but X would probably challenge it, which would lead to having to face X in court, which would lead to having to interact with X and tell the whole all-the-nasty-details story in semipublic and just. ugh. They've been pretty good about leaving me alone and I think doing nothing is the best way to keep it that way?
(I did briefly consider pressing charges at one point, but I don't trust the justice system to be fair to either of us because of our various marginalized identities --- and I do trust it to be shittier to X than X deserves.)
In all seriousness, it is my belief that people who want to hedge their bets and retain relationships with both you and X are setting up social conditions under which assault might happen to other people.
Yes. This is kind of why I hate this situation (other than the, you know, trauma bit), and the reason I'm making this post now is that I'm pretty sure this is happening. :( :( :(
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Date: 2015-01-21 03:31 pm (UTC)(I did briefly consider pressing charges at one point, but I don't trust the justice system to be fair to either of us because of our various marginalized identities --- and I do trust it to be shittier to X than X deserves.)
In all seriousness, it is my belief that people who want to hedge their bets and retain relationships with both you and X are setting up social conditions under which assault might happen to other people.
Yes. This is kind of why I hate this situation (other than the, you know, trauma bit), and the reason I'm making this post now is that I'm pretty sure this is happening. :( :( :(