Looking at the rest of this thread, I tend to agree with the tactic of not necessarily spreading it around publicly, but of warning people who are spending a lot of time with the person or considering a romantic relationship... mostly.
The exception to the mostly is highly specific and individual, and is, for example, me. I have a trauma history; I have an extensive and violent and nasty trauma history; I, personally, due to my history, have a fairly serious zero-tolerance policy about being around people who have committed sexual assault, as in, I guess I could see someone who had managing to convince me that they had changed and would never do it again and really felt bad etc., but we would be starting from a position of me not wanting to speak to them at all so it would be hard to do. Maybe that makes me a bad person in some ways, I don't know. The point is, many people with trauma histories have much firmer zero-tolerance policies about this sort of thing than people in general do, I know that's not just me; many trauma survivors also work very hard to feel safe(r) on a day-to-day basis, and finding out something like this about someone one has already been around does not help with that. So when you're aware someone has a trauma history, you might consider telling them this sort of info about a person even if the social contact between the two is fleeting and tangential.
Or you might not; I don't think it's a moral issue, I think it's a case-by-case social thing.
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Date: 2009-08-18 05:22 pm (UTC)Looking at the rest of this thread, I tend to agree with the tactic of not necessarily spreading it around publicly, but of warning people who are spending a lot of time with the person or considering a romantic relationship... mostly.
The exception to the mostly is highly specific and individual, and is, for example, me. I have a trauma history; I have an extensive and violent and nasty trauma history; I, personally, due to my history, have a fairly serious zero-tolerance policy about being around people who have committed sexual assault, as in, I guess I could see someone who had managing to convince me that they had changed and would never do it again and really felt bad etc., but we would be starting from a position of me not wanting to speak to them at all so it would be hard to do. Maybe that makes me a bad person in some ways, I don't know. The point is, many people with trauma histories have much firmer zero-tolerance policies about this sort of thing than people in general do, I know that's not just me; many trauma survivors also work very hard to feel safe(r) on a day-to-day basis, and finding out something like this about someone one has already been around does not help with that. So when you're aware someone has a trauma history, you might consider telling them this sort of info about a person even if the social contact between the two is fleeting and tangential.
Or you might not; I don't think it's a moral issue, I think it's a case-by-case social thing.