If it is true that a person is responsible for his or her own social skills, does that not include, to some extent, acquiring education on how to act or react or communicate in sexual situations? Aren't both parties to blame when there is a situation involving a misunderstanding that leads to rape, for neglecting to educate themselves on how to handle such a situation, at the very least? Because it is most important to those people involved in the situation, not to someone else or to society, to avoid rape.
This makes me really nervous. I'm not 100% sure that you're wrong --- it's hard to get emotional brain and theory brain to calm down and talk to each other rationally on this one --- but I think there's a big difference between the enlightened self-interest of "I want to learn how to say no more effectively" and blame of "This was my fault for not having the presence of mind to say no more effectively." At the same time, I don't want to do the anti-porn feminist thing and act like women are some precious flowers who need protection and can't protect ourselves.
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regna
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Date: 2009-08-18 10:01 pm (UTC)This makes me really nervous. I'm not 100% sure that you're wrong --- it's hard to get emotional brain and theory brain to calm down and talk to each other rationally on this one --- but I think there's a big difference between the enlightened self-interest of "I want to learn how to say no more effectively" and blame of "This was my fault for not having the presence of mind to say no more effectively." At the same time, I don't want to do the anti-porn feminist thing and act like women are some precious flowers who need protection and can't protect ourselves.