my baby's in the white fluffy clouds

I wasn't really looking at it in terms of how the treatment is fair or unfair, but more in terms of what happens when you put the idea in someone's head that this behavior is in their nature. There are a lot of people who think they need to follow their nature, even if they have to do it consciously because someone else told them what it is. Make a thing part of their identity, no matter how negative, and they embrace it, even take pride in it. A small-minded man who thinks cleaving to his gender role is the most important thing in the world might feel like a rape or two is what he needs to assert and fortify his masculinity. This may, in fact, be what happens every day. I can imagine a really insecure F2M having internalized this idea and thinking that to be a man he really has to rape someone. Set down tracks for people and they will follow them.