I mean, I think you get it, or I wouldn't be dating you. ;) I wouldn't say anything over dinner, but there are like 200 other people reading here! It's a teachable moment, or something. ;)
Oh good. I saw your reply and I was all "O NOES I did not mean to have feministcisprivilege!fail in my girlfriend's journal! That was not the plan!" But I like what my second comment said way better than the first, for clarity and meaning something, so I'm glad of you saying something that made me rethink and restate.
looking at an Other who doesn't work like them forces cis people to confront the construction of their own gender identities, and makes them uncomfortable.
In such extraordinarily useful ways. People put so much work into how they construct their genders-- it seems a shame to leave it all unconscious or unexamined.
The reason I call it a pet issue is ... because I look for it in everything I read, and focus on that more than I focus on other things... It's not necessarily a bad thing, but it is something I should be aware of in the way I approach the world.
That makes total sense. I have similar keywords, both in work and in general, and it's useful to keep in mind that other people are seeing something different.
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Re: an important clarification
Date: 2011-01-19 03:51 am (UTC)Oh good. I saw your reply and I was all "O NOES I did not mean to have feministcisprivilege!fail in my girlfriend's journal! That was not the plan!" But I like what my second comment said way better than the first, for clarity and meaning something, so I'm glad of you saying something that made me rethink and restate.
looking at an Other who doesn't work like them forces cis people to confront the construction of their own gender identities, and makes them uncomfortable.
In such extraordinarily useful ways. People put so much work into how they construct their genders-- it seems a shame to leave it all unconscious or unexamined.
The reason I call it a pet issue is ... because I look for it in everything I read, and focus on that more than I focus on other things... It's not necessarily a bad thing, but it is something I should be aware of in the way I approach the world.
That makes total sense. I have similar keywords, both in work and in general, and it's useful to keep in mind that other people are seeing something different.