And she doesn't know enough not to put herself in a situation where she might not be able to say no and regret it later?
Unfortunately, this is prohibitively restrictive.
I agree.
In its focus on giving or withholding of consent and trying to determine "safe" vs. "unsafe" situations, I think this mini-conversation is still overlooking situations where people are not able to say "no" at all.
It is not true that everyone is capable of having and/or expressing those instincts that tell you "something's wrong," and of those people who can and do express those instincts, there is a subset that is not capable of putting themselves into or getting themselves out of a dangerous situation. Please see partial list above.
I think that the culpability and responsibility in those cases, especially, lies firmly on the shoulders of the rapist.
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regna
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Date: 2009-08-18 11:54 pm (UTC)Unfortunately, this is prohibitively restrictive.
I agree.
In its focus on giving or withholding of consent and trying to determine "safe" vs. "unsafe" situations, I think this mini-conversation is still overlooking situations where people are not able to say "no" at all.
It is not true that everyone is capable of having and/or expressing those instincts that tell you "something's wrong," and of those people who can and do express those instincts, there is a subset that is not capable of putting themselves into or getting themselves out of a dangerous situation. Please see partial list above.
I think that the culpability and responsibility in those cases, especially, lies firmly on the shoulders of the rapist.