I think it's awesome when people aren't men or women and I'm often unsure about whether or not I want to claim such an identity; the best I've been able to come up with for myself is that being a woman is necessary but not sufficient. I think Kate Bornstein has done awesome work and written books that have helped a whole lot of people, and I'm glad that they helped you; I wish more people came out and said that they didn't feel like men or women. I also wish she wouldn't generalize, like you said. :) As far as the post goes, I think that the way she talks about herself in that post is very condescending, though, and sets herself up as someone who cannot be argued with:
"I'm old school, pal. I was taught butch and femme in the late 90s"
The late 1990s is not "old school" for butch and femme identities. The fifties would be "old school" for butch and femme identities. The late 1990s is "late to the party" for butch and femme identities.
"That's when I have to breathe, sit back and trust I've done my best to teach my children well."
Your... children? I dunno. I guess if I had more positive associations, I wouldn't find this quite so presumptuous. But this skeeved me out.
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Date: 2010-09-07 11:40 am (UTC)"I'm old school, pal. I was taught butch and femme in the late 90s"
The late 1990s is not "old school" for butch and femme identities. The fifties would be "old school" for butch and femme identities. The late 1990s is "late to the party" for butch and femme identities.
"That's when I have to breathe, sit back and trust I've done my best to teach my children well."
Your... children? I dunno. I guess if I had more positive associations, I wouldn't find this quite so presumptuous. But this skeeved me out.